What Men Want

The Key to Men's Secret Desires

Men show and tell their sexual wishes in bed and beyond. Attractive couples demonstrate techniques to enhance their sex lives: Giving and receiving oral sex, dominance and submission, fantasy role playing, sex in the outdoors and other unusual places, and how to seduce and be seduced. With Sunset Thomas, Sharon Kane, Steve Hatcher, Chanel, Tina and Brenda.

Special Guest: Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld

Psychologist Bernie Zilbergeld was a leader in the field of human sexuality and a beloved sex therapist and educator for over 25 years. He wrote the best-selling book, MALE SEXUALITY and its successor, THE NEW MALE SEXUALITY, which still stand as the “bible” in this field. Through his lectures and presentations on various aspects of sexuality, as well as courses for professionals and lay people alike, DR Zilbergeld made a huge difference in people’s lives. Dr. Zilbergeld was a popular guest on hundreds of radio and television shows including Donahue, Oprah, Today, Charles Grodin, CBS Morning News, and Sonya Live

WHAT MEN WANT - REVIEW:

What do men want? For years I’ve thought about this question and finally they’ve come up with a video that’s going to give me all the answers, or so I hoped.

The video opens with an introduction by Dr. Bernie Ziebergeld explaining that his video is not about what EVERY man wants, but that it gives you some ideas of what many men want. It’s a place to start at least. From there it goes into a man-in-the-street interview asking men what it is they want when it comes to sex.

The answers are really not all that surprising, one of which is that men want their partners to actually be interested in them and in sex in general. Apparently they enjoy it when the woman takes the initiative. "Being creative is important because it makes men feel that you care enough to share in the work of sex."

The video goes on to follow one couple, showing how the woman initiated sex with her partner by leaving a snapshot of herself in various stages of undress from the front door all the way to the bathroom shower where she waited for him. What follows is a shower scene where she washes him and then gives him a hand-job rich with slippery, soapy lather. (Note: Some soap can cause a burning sensation in the urethra) It’s a very sexy scene. Matter of fact, I rewinded the video and watched it again ;-) The couple then goes on to have sex while standing in the shower. Now I know this isn’t always physically possible for some couples, but it was still sexy to see it work for them.

Back to the man-in-the-street to find out more of what men want again followed by a normal looking couple acting out one of the suggestions given by the men being interviewed. In all, there are five scenes acted out - Surprise in the Shower, Driver her Crazy in Bed, Fun in the Van, In the Jacuzzi, and An Erotic Birthday Present.

There was an interesting thing that happened in the Jacuzzi, as noted by Dr. Ziebergeld. The setup for this scene is that the man gets more pleasure out of pleasing his partner than in taking pleasure for himself. In that scene we see him pleasuring her orally by the side of the Jacuzzi, but the man never has an orgasm or full erection even though there is plenty of sexplay. Dr. Ziebergeld suggests the following for how men would like women to deal with this type of situation: "Respond by not asking anxious questions about whether she is turning you on or stimulating you correctly. Just go on with the show." I agree with this to a point. Making the situation stressful when it is happening is NOT a good idea. However, if it happens on a regular occasion, I think as a couple you should discuss what is happening.

What does it all add up to?
Overall, I enjoyed watching this video. It did give me some ideas for different things that I can do with my lover to enhance our relationship. It’s important to be reminded every once in a while of what keeps the spark in a sexual relationship. If your partner is a bit shy and is not willing to tell you outright what he wants, Dr. Ziebergeld suggests that you tell him your likes and wants first. Your sharing will help him to do the same. That’s good advice, but doing so is not always easy. Watching these videos is a step in the right direction.

Reviewed By: Katie